Birthing Something New is Always Messy

The hospital room may be spotless and sterile, but birth itself will always take place amid chaos, pain, and blood. —Steven Pressfield

I will never forget the birth of my three children. They were wonderful events but to the natural eye they were a messy event. 

 Chris was my first born. Janice and I were elated when we found out she was pregnant. So would begin the birthing process. Janice of course felt the weight of the next 9 months. Certain smells at anytime during the day would trigger her “morning sickness.” I wanted to be the great husband and make it better but there was nothing I could do other than stand by and support her best I could. The process had to work its way out. Finally Chris’ birthday came and I was scared to death. The doctor felt it was a good idea for me to hold up Janice’s feet as he tried to insert the epidural. Although I maintain I was never close to passing out, I soon broke out in a cold sweat. The doctor had second thoughts about my medical abilities and asked me to sit down. The epidural didn’t matter anyway. Before it took affect Chris’ heart rate dropped. Suddenly there were over 10 people in the room trying to complete the birthing process. I only felt more helpless as I stood in a spot so Janice could see me. In just a few more minutes Chris came kicking and screaming into this world. He was pretty slimy and wrinkled yet to me he was the most beautiful baby in the world. Baby and mom were both fine. 

 Chris’ birth was some 22+ years ago. Janice and I willing repeated this process two more times for the birth of Matt and Victoria. 

 When a woman is in labor she has pain because her time has come. But when she has given birth to a child, she no longer remembers the suffering because of the joy that a person has been born into the world. – John 16:21

 So what do you want to birth into your own life? Is it a new ministry or career? Perhaps you dream of starting your own business or to plant a church. Maybe you want to write a book or get a college degree. Perhaps you just want to be a better mom or dad; if it really matters, it will take some chaos, pain and perhaps some spilled blood to bring it to life. 

 If you want something great and new in your life, you can’t skip the birthing process. (Tweet This)

 The Process:

•  Conception– Sometimes planned and sometimes not but this is where it all starts. This is when we catch the first glimpse of what could be.
• Gestation  – Don’t try to cut short this phase. This is where you begin to plan the fine details (Pick a name, get the nursery ready etc.) Perhaps you need to take some classes or learn a new skill. It is also the time to bring others alongside who will partner with you.
• Don’t abort – It is during the gestation period that the process ahead, the actual birthing, and the life after can seem too overwhelming. Stays focused on the vision and resolve to see it through.
• Push through – You want to walk through the full gestation period, but don’t stay there longer than you need too. Like Seth Godin (and others) say, at some point you need to “ship.” The temptation to abort will come up again but you are too close now. Push through and bring your vision to life. 

 The life you want is worth the chaos, pain and even blood to bring it to pass. No it wont be easy. There really is not a simple 3 step process to success; it takes work every time. (Tweet This)  Resolve to see the birthing process through and you will see a wonderful life on the other side. 

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So what are you trying to birth? What has helped you through the chaos?

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About the Author: Jon Stallings

I am enthusiastic about helping others discover their purpose and grow into a deeper relationship with Jesus. It is great to see their eyes light up at their “Ah Ha!” moment when they discover they were created for something more. My hope is that this blog will help encourage and inspire you along your way. Join the conversation and take the time to share with me your own story. I have been married to my beautiful wife Janice for over 30 years. We currently live in McDonough Georgia with our daughter. Our two boys have left the nest and we have two wonderful grand kids. Of course we cannot forget about our dog Bear.