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Birthing Something New is Always Messy

September 23, 2013 6 Comments

Birthing is MessyThe hospital room may be spotless and sterile, but birth itself will always take place amid chaos, pain, and blood. —Steven Pressfield

I will never forget the birth of my three children. They were wonderful events but to the natural eye they were a messy event. 

 Chris was my first born. Janice and I were elated when we found out she was pregnant. So would begin the birthing process. Janice of course felt the weight of the next 9 months. Certain smells at anytime during the day would trigger her “morning sickness.” I wanted to be the great husband and make it better but there was nothing I could do other than stand by and support her best I could. The process had to work its way out. Finally Chris’ birthday came and I was scared to death. The doctor felt it was a good idea for me to hold up Janice’s feet as he tried to insert the epidural. Although I maintain I was never close to passing out, I soon broke out in a cold sweat. The doctor had second thoughts about my medical abilities and asked me to sit down. The epidural didn’t matter anyway. Before it took affect Chris’ heart rate dropped. Suddenly there were over 10 people in the room trying to complete the birthing process. I only felt more helpless as I stood in a spot so Janice could see me. In just a few more minutes Chris came kicking and screaming into this world. He was pretty slimy and wrinkled yet to me he was the most beautiful baby in the world. Baby and mom were both fine. 

 Chris’ birth was some 22 years ago. He now has a wife of his own. Janice and I willing repeated this process two more times for the birth of Matt and Victoria. 

 When a woman is in labor she has pain because her time has come. But when she has given birth to a child, she no longer remembers the suffering because of the joy that a person has been born into the world. – John 16:21

 So what do you want to birth into your own life? Is it a new ministry or career? Perhaps you dream of starting your own business or to plant a church. Maybe you want to write a book or get a college degree. Perhaps you just want to be a better mom or dad; if it really matters, it will take some chaos, pain and perhaps some spilled blood to bring it to life. 

 If you want something great and new in your life, you can’t skip the birthing process. (Tweet This)

 The Process:

  •  Conception- Sometimes planned and sometimes not but this is where it all starts. This is when we catch the first glimpse of what could be.
  • Gestation  - Don’t try to cut short this phase. This is where you begin to plan the fine details (Pick a name, get the nursery ready etc.) Perhaps you need to take some classes or learn a new skill. It is also the time to bring others alongside who will partner with you.
  • Don’t abort – It is during the gestation period that the process ahead, the actual birthing, and the life after can seem too overwhelming. Stays focused on the vision and resolve to see it through.
  • Push through – You want to walk through the full gestation period, but don’t stay there longer than you need too. Like Seth Godin (and others) say, at some point you need to “ship.” The temptation to abort will come up again but you are too close now. Push through and bring your vision to life. 

 The life you want is worth the chaos, pain and even blood to bring it to pass. No it wont be easy. There really is not a simple 3 step process to success; it takes work every time. (Tweet This)  Resolve to see the birthing process through and you will see a wonderful life on the other side. 

Your voice is important; I would love to hear from you.

So what are you trying to birth? What has helped you through the chaos?

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About the Author:

I am enthusiastic about helping others discover their purpose and grow into a deeper relationship with Jesus. It is great to see their eyes light up at their “Ah Ha!” moment when they discover they were created for something more. My hope is that this blog will help encourage and inspire you along your way. Join the conversation and take the time to share with me your own story. I have been married to my beautiful wife Janice for over 25 years. We currently live in Stockbridge Georgia with two of our children Matt and Victoria. Our oldest Chris has left the nest. Of course we cannot forget about our dog Taffy.
  • http://www.hutchinspired.com/ Charles Hutchinson

    I sometimes have to stop and ask myself, “Is the end result (which I may not even believe is accessible) worth all this pain and uncertainty?” I’m so thankful to my wife and others that encourage me to keep the faith.

    Great post, thanks for sharing this.

    -Blessings

    • http://www.jonstallings.com/ Jon Stallings

      I am glad you enjoyed it Charles. The walk of faith is meant to be in community. We get ourselves in trouble when we try and do it alone. We need each others faith.

  • http://tcavey.blogspot.com/ TCAvey

    Great analogy,

    In nursing school I was one of the only ones who didn’t look forward to OB rotation. You’re right, it’s messy… and gross and overall NOT the area for me…but oh those sweet babies! They make it all worth it.

    Good, thought provoking post and imagery!

    • http://www.jonstallings.com/ Jon Stallings

      Thanks TC, I am glad you enjoyed. The outcome is worth the effort. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

  • http://www.manturity.com/ Manturity

    Great article Jon. My wife and I can totally relate to the birthing experience as it happened almost 9 months ago. Yes it was amazing, but wow was it messy.

    Great tie together to our own goals. I am going through a lot of these pains right now as I try to decide on my next venture with Manturity. A book? An ebook? A Christian men’s shirt line? So many ideas!! Whatever I decided, I know God will be by my side. I need to push through!

    • http://www.jonstallings.com/ Jon Stallings

      Thanks Bryan, there are times when we just have pick one and go for it. We have to take that first leap of faith to show God that we are willing. I look forward to keeping up with your journey.