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The Power of No: Learning to Focus on The Right Yes

June 3, 2013 8 Comments

I am learning to focus on the things that I really value and to put the majority of my resources to work where they will make the most significance. In order to focus on the important stuff, I have to say “no” to the less important.

Photo courtesy sboneham Creative Commons

Photo courtesy sboneham Creative Commons

 Each day, thousands of demands scream for our attention. Family, work, ministry and necessities of life are just part of the short list.  Then we mix in the things we want to do and suddenly we find ourselves not knowing where to start.  Life can be so overwhelming. 

 One of the greatest words I have ever learned is “no;” however, it has been a hard lesson. I only have a limited amount of resources (time, money, knowledge etc.) I have to be diligent to focus on the things that I really value and put the majority of my life investments where they will make the most significance. (Tweet This)

 In order to focus on the right “yes,” I have to say “no” to the less important. (Tweet This) I need to be willing to commit either “yes” or “no” and less of “maybe.”


 Before you can say “no” you must know the right “yes.”

  •  Knowing your values and core principles is a great indicator of your right yes. You need to be able to clearly define what is most important to you. Creating a life plan is a valuable tool to help you define what really is important. Michael Hyatt has a great free resource on how to create a life plan.
  •  What are your long range dreams and goals? I know you have probably heard that hundreds of times but they are important. Have you really taken time to write your goals down?

Your values, core principles, dreams and goals create a compass to keep you focused on the right yes. This compass will help you judge the tasks you take on. If the task or new opportunity does not line up with your compass, there is a good chance you should say no. 

 Be bold to say “no.” – This means you need to be willing to say no to yourself and to others. You need to be OK offending people from time to time.

Life is short, so we need to focus on what is really important and say no to the less important. (Tweet This)


“No” can be difficult at times but with increased focus comes greater success. 


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About the Author:

I am enthusiastic about helping others discover their purpose and grow into a deeper relationship with Jesus. It is great to see their eyes light up at their “Ah Ha!” moment when they discover they were created for something more. My hope is that this blog will help encourage and inspire you along your way. Join the conversation and take the time to share with me your own story. I have been married to my beautiful wife Janice for over 30 years. We currently live in McDonough Georgia with our daughter. Our two boys have left the nest and we have two wonderful grand kids. Of course we cannot forget about our dog Bear.